My friend and her brother; A story on dealing with the loss of a loved one as told by a child

My friend whom I met in P4A (primary school year 4) has experienced both bad and good in her life, but the worst experience happened to her before we met. She was in P3D.

First of all, she was 7 years old and her brother was 10 years old. Even though they were born in different years, they were born on the same date. So in a way they were like twins, because they shared the same birthday.

But before their birthday on Saturday, 6^th May, 2019, she experienced a very bad experience, her favorite brother died.

She never thought he would die like that. So she got traumatized. The last words her brother said were “goodbye” and so, every time anybody said “goodbye” she would remember what happened to her brother and she would cry.

When we met she told this to me. And I said “Do not feel sad, I am here for you, anything you need you can ask me.” Soon she started to be happy again but no matter how happy she was when she remembered him she cried a little bit. But, she became fearless, so that death doesn’t even scare her any more. And after some time she stopped crying and accepted the reality.

She is now studying well. I also wish we were together because she was the best friend I ever had in my life, she cared for me, explained for me lessons, and she would understand me the most. She was surprisingly funny and a hard worker. In P4 she never got under 60%. She was promoted to P7, and now she is having a good time. She doesn’t get traumatized anymore – she now knows the pain of losing a brother, she only spent 10 years with him.