Hospice shares advice on coping with grief this Christmas

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Christmas can be a very difficult time for those who have lost a loved one. Whether the death was recent or many years ago, the lead up through Christmas and the day itself, can be tough when many others will be celebrating. Treetops Hospice, has shared advice and guidance on how you can cope at this time of year.

Treetops Therapeutic Services Senior Counsellor, Julie Wright, explained that letting people know how you are feeling and what you might need can make a big difference to how you cope:

“Sometimes the first Christmas without your loved one can be the most difficult, or it still can be a struggle some years later. There’s no right way to grieve.

“This is a time to be really kind to yourself. Any feelings associated with your bereavement are a natural part of the grieving process and are individual to you.

Allow any emotions that come up to be expressed, rather than pushing them away.”

Other advice includes:

Acknowledge the day and its impact on you

  • It is likely to be a more challenging day than normal. As well as finding it difficult yourself  you may have others grieving around you. Remember everyone grieves differently and at their own pace. So talking to others might help you negotiate how you manage Christmas together as you need to, and support each other according to how you all feel – allowing for times to be together and space apart if you need it
  • Alternatively, you may want company and to share special memories. It’s important to do what feels right for you

Remembering the person who has died

Consider if there is anything you would like to do to remember your loved one this Christmas. Find ways to connect with their memory that feel meaningful to you.

  • You may want to set a place at your Christmas dinner table for your loved one or raise a glass in their memory
  • You could visit a favourite place of theirs, or visit their resting place with something to commemorate the day such as a photo, some music, their preferred drink, or a special object
  • Online tributes can also be a helpful way of reflecting on how much your loved one meant to you. Perhaps post a message or photo on social media or share a video with family and friends.

“At Treetops, we understand that everyone grieves differently,” Julie continues.

“Everyone feels emotion and grief when they’ve experienced a bereavement and that’s normal. Treetops is here if you feel like you need a bit of extra help.”

Treetops, based in Risley, Derbyshire, supports people with life-limiting conditions, those who’ve been bereaved, and their families.

The charity offers one-to-one counselling for adults and children who are struggling after the death of a loved one. There is also a weekly drop-in support group called Tears to Laughter for adults who’ve been bereaved.

For further information about Treetops, visit www.treetops.org.uk or call 0115 949 1264.


Photo:  Julie Wright, Therapeutic Services Senior Counsellor

About Treetops Hospice

Treetops Hospice, the leading end-of-life care charity in Derby, Derbyshire and Nottinghamshire, provides nursing care and emotional support for adults with life-limiting conditions, those who’ve been bereaved, and their families.

The charity provides support from diagnosis onwards for patients with conditions such as cancer, motor neurone disease and heart and respiratory conditions.

This year, we are very proud to be celebrating 40 years of caring for people and their families in our local community. During this time, we have supported thousands of patients with end-of-life nursing care and bereavement counselling.

We have achieved this amazing milestone thanks to our dedicated volunteers who help across the whole hospice and in our charity shops, our hard-working staff team, and our supporters, past and present.

Last year, our team of Hospice at Home nurses provided over 20,000 hours of care to terminally-ill patients, working day and night to give much-needed support.

Our team of bereavement counsellors provided over 4,500 counselling sessions – more than 900 of them to children and young people. Wellbeing team members provide valuable information and support to those who need it.

Treetops is doing all it can to continue to support those in most need and welcomes donations to ensure the future of the hospice and its services: www.treetopshospice.org.uk/donate

A counselling session for a bereaved child costs £34.50. An overnight Hospice at Home nursing shift for a patient at the end of life costs £108.

Treetops Hospice Trust, Derby Road, Risley, Derbyshire, DE72 3SS

0115 949 1264 | www.treetopshospice.org.uk

Registered Charity Number 519540


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